I wish I spent more time with my family

Most people who are near death almost always express the above sentiment. Why not start today? If we know we are going to die someday, let’s start spending as much time as we want with our families. Your circumstances may not allow you to spend all the time with them, but if we gradually increase the time we spend with our family 2 hours more per week and that will only increase to 4 hours more per week and so on. Point is that we all need to start living today rather than waiting for someday! Let’s start our journey.

Death

I wanted to talk about something we try to avoid talking as a society. Death. When one is born, there is only one certainty in this world. Every living being that is born will eventually die. There is no question about it. It is the only guarantee one can provide in life. There is no guarantee one will be healthy or wealthy or will find love etc. But we all die. Although death is this certainty, we are never willing to accept that as a fact of life – especially in the western world. Another thing about death is that it is uncertain as to timing. As we are talking, I may stop breathing and die right here. Intellectually we know that we may die someday. But we think that day is not going to be today. We go on about our lives as if we may not die today. Our default mode is that I may not die today. How about we look at this just a little differently? How about we change our default mode to I may die today. That does not mean we will die today but just as it says, we may die today. We may not die today, but we may. If someone gives us a date certain let’s say one week for now; we will die for sure. How will that change our day to day decisions? Will we worry about someone who cut us off in traffic? Will we worry about small things that we argue about with our friends and families? Let’s contemplate that and see how we can change our decisions based on the fact that we may die today.

Can I listen to music during meditation?

It is not a good idea to listen to music during meditation. When we listen to music our mind is focused on the music. Idea is to try and clear our mind of any thoughts. This certainly takes some practice getting used to but once we can meditate on a calm mind without any external stimulus, our concentration increases which has added benefits.

Why does my mind gets busier when I meditate?

When we are learning to meditate, the mind tries to remind you that who is in charge. This entire exercise is about taming the mind. So initially when you start to meditate, you will get just about a million thoughts a minute. If this happens, just go back to the sensation of your breath at your nostrils for about five breaths. This should calm your mind down. Initially, you will end up doing this every 10 seconds but eventually, you will come to a point where you are able to control your mind.